*My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
I would initially work with both of you together to identify the root of the challenges to determine if it is a marital problem. Occasionally, you may want to engage in individual counseling to resolve individual challenges.
*How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Therapy will goals are unique and geared towards your individual needs. The first session with couples is 75 minutes and you can expect to discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history relevant to your challenges, and identify the goals you want to accomplish.
Follow-up appointments are 55 minutes and we start to dive into the problem and start the work. The average amount of time varies from 8-12 weeks with minor-moderate challenges to overcome (communication, intimacy, etc.) More intense challenges (infidelity, addictions, finances) may take longer. However, if you all are ready to conquer the challenges as a team, no mountain is to great to overcome.
*I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak or “crazy”?
On the contrary! People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason, aren’t working right now. Perhaps your problem(s) feel overwhelming and are making life challenging. In our work together, we will identify those strengths and work together to improve your circumstances and your life.
*What is the difference between talking to you or my best friend/family?
Our sessions are completely confidential, therefore, you won’t have to worry about others knowing or spreading your business. Friends and family may develop biases towards your significant other based on how the situations were presented. I am here to help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills for improving communication and restoring intimacy.