How do I know you are the right counselor for me?
You are looking for a therapist who is down to earth, understands your needs, will be an accountability partner, but most of all, a you want a therapist you can connect with through this tough time. Like any other relationship, it’s all about chemistry. I help couples learn how to communicate so the other will hear, solve problems collaboratively and respectfully, and learn to forgive and trust again. I will also help you to develop and grow as individual by helping you to look at common destructive patterns in your life and work with you to create a plan for change.
What type of clients do you work with?
I work best with clients who have had enough, are tired of crying and complaining, and are ready to do the work. Please understand that I can’t “fix” your problems or make them disappear. My clients typically appreciate my straight-forward, solutions-focused approach to resolving problems so they can get back to life. I also work with clients who have trust issues and have nowhere to turn or no one to talk to out of fear of judgement. I provide an emotionally safe and judgement-free space where you can process feelings and emotions.
Men are typically hesitant about seeking counseling so I do my best to you feel comfortable process feelings, emotions, and make decisions.
How are you qualified to help me?
I am licensed by the Texas State Board of Examiners of Professional Counseling and I am also a Texas Certified Mediator. I have experienced my own trials and tribulations so my counseling is based on multiple theoretical practices in addition to overcoming personal adversity and life experiences.
My partner and I are having various problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
I would initially work with both of you together to identify the root of the challenges to determine if it is a marital problem. Occasionally, you may want to engage in individual counseling to resolve individual challenges.
How does therapy work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Therapy will goals are unique and geared towards your individual needs. The first session with couples is 75 minutes and you can expect to discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history relevant to your challenges, and identify the goals you want to accomplish.
Follow-up appointments are 50 minutes and we start to dive into the problem and start the work. The average amount of time varies from 8-12 weeks with minor-moderate challenges to overcome (communication, intimacy, etc.) More intense challenges (infidelity, addictions, abuse, finances) may take longer. However, if you all are ready to conquer the challenges as a team, no mountain is to great to overcome.
I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak or “crazy”?
On the contrary! People who ask for help know when they need it and have the ability to reach out. You already have some strengths that you’ve used before, that for whatever reason, aren’t working right now. Perhaps your problem(s) feel overwhelming and are making life challenging. In our work together, we will identify those strengths and work together to improve your circumstances and your life.
What is the difference between talking to you or my best friend/family?
Our sessions are completely confidential, therefore, you won’t have to worry about others knowing or spreading your business. Friends and family may develop biases towards your significant other based on how the situations were presented. I am here to help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills for improving communication and restoring intimacy.